You have ordered a new dildo. It arrives at your doorstep. You pick it up and get it in your room to unwrap. You unwrap it and get yourself ready to use it. But after many attempts, it does not fit in. In some situations, the experience can be a bit painful. If this seems your story then it feels bad. I can understand how badly disappointed you would be at that moment left with many questions.
So, here at DildoDummy, we try to solve every issue relating to your sexual journey (having a dildo in it 😅). So, as this situation needs to be solved, I will try to explain everything in detail about what’s happening and what should be done in this situation.
Let’s start with the possible reason why it is not fitting. And after that, we will talk about the proper way you should insert something inside.
Possible reasons why it is not fitting:
When your dildo is not fitting inside then there could be many possible reasons. And only you can find what was the reason in your case that was keeping you away from reaching your goal. So, let me explain every possible reason why it is not fitting inside so you can find out yours.
1. Lack of proper preparation
Sex is a pleasing journey and it should never be started in a hurry. Before starting you should prepare everything. This is the very first that many girls do. Get everything ready at the start. Because if you start looking for the things while you are aroused then this breaks the flow and can create stress. This can make a bad impact on your arousal and your vagina will not loosen up.
So, get every important thing ready. Take everything required for masturbation like your sex toy, lube, cleaning clothe or tissue paper, and some extra things that set your mood. Keep these already so you don’t have to break the flow.
2. Muscle tension
Mental instability and stress are one of the big reasons for vaginal muscle tension. And when your vagina is not loosened properly then it becomes difficult to insert something inside. Sometimes it can lead to some serious pain. So, relax…enjoy the time. If you have any stress then just throw it in the dustbin and enjoy this time.
Another reason for muscle tension is lack of arousal. Before inserting something inside you need to be aroused completely. Be aroused on such a level that your vagina gets full wet by the naturally produced lubricant. This will help a lot.
3. Lack of lubes
Lubes are the most important thing when you are going to masturbate. This is why you get lubes recommended everywhere. Because it is actually important. Your biggest enemy while insertion is friction. Friction between your sex toy and vaginal wall. And lube is the bigger weapon you have to fight against this enemy.
Every time your body does not produce enough lubricant for the smooth insertion. So, these external lubes help a lot. The lube makes everything slippery and smooth. A frictionless insertion for a comfortable play.
4. Being in a hurry
Being in hurry is a mistake you make while trying to insert your dildo. You are not in a race to achieve the goal at first. Take it slow. The slower the better. So, don’t make this mistake to be in hurry.
5. You may be using a wrong angle
Sometimes you do everything right but just a small mistake destroys everything. This is one mistake. Sometimes you just try to push in the wrong angle. Everyone’s vagina is different. So, try some other angles. Explore your body and see what works best for you.
6. You have actually bought a very big dildo
And the very last reason why it is getting very difficult to insert the dildo inside is that you may have bought a very big-sized dildo. Yeah, it is true that a vagina can take in any big-sized dildo inside because the vaginal walls are very flexible. After all, they are made to push out a whole child. But not at the start. When you are starting you need something smaller.
To start, you need to buy a dildo having a diameter of fewer than 1.5 inches. The bigger it goes the harder it becomes. Now check your dildo’s girth. If its diameter is under 1.5 inches then that’s good. Otherwise, it is suggested to return that and buy another beginner dildo.
The proper way to penetrate your vagina
We have talked about the possible reasons why the dildo is not getting in. Now, let me talk about the proper way to penetrate your vagina. The sex is not about the destination. it is about the journey. So, enjoy the journey, go slow and feel every moment.
1. Setting mood
Getting in the mood is the most important thing when you are thinking to have self-sex. Setup the mood before you start. Dim the light. Or, light up some candles for a romantic environment. If needed take some massage to relax and set everything in the mood.
2. Warming up and getting aroused
Now warm up your body. Before insertion, it is important that you get aroused completely. It is important to get wet as much as possible. To get aroused try reading some romantic novels, or watch any video that arouses you. Do anything that can make you wet. The more natural lube produced the better it is.
It is found that a woman can orgasm up to 5 times in a sex session. So, if you are able to do so then try orgasm once before inserting. This relaxes out your vaginal walls completely and produces happy hormones in your body. This will make the insertion even easier.
3. Stretch
Stretch the pelvic floor of your body to relax out pelvic muscles. Stretching your pelvic muscles helps to relax them and is good for insertion.
4. A lot of lube
Lube is very important as I said above. The more slippery it is the smoother it gets. So, use a lot of lube as required.
5. Communicate
When you are with your partner then communication becomes an important aspect. Your partner can give you emotional support and you can direct him on what you like and whatnot. Try some dirty talks too because it will keep you aroused.
6. Know your body by yourself
Everyone is different. And so do you. So, explore your body. Try different positions and angles. Only you can explore what works best for you.
7. Keep everything at a pace
Don’t rush. Take it slow. Enjoy the moment. Feel every moment and proceed as you get comfortable with the current situation. While inserting take it slowly keeping everything on a pace. It is explained well in this video how you have to insert it slowly to keep everything in control
Important Note
Try not to use a very big dildo at the start for insertion. You should consider a small dildo with a diameter having less than 1.5 inches. This will be much easier to start and then you proceed to bigger ones.
Conclusion
I hope all the information given in this blog helps you. Rest all is up to you. You need to explore your body and then can fix everything. If you think I have missed any information then let me know. I will be happy to assist you or if you have any suggestions then I will love to hear them.
