Love is a beautiful feeling that brings immense joy and happiness to our lives. It’s the emotion that makes us feel alive and gives us the strength to overcome any obstacle. However, despite its beauty, love can also be a complicated and challenging journey, especially when it comes to first love or relationships. Many people have experienced the pain of their first relationship failing, leaving them with unanswered questions and a broken heart.
In this blog post, we’ll explore some of the reasons why first love or relationships fail most of the time without giving a direct answer to the question. So whether you’re experiencing your first love or trying to understand why it didn’t work out, keep reading for some insights into this complex topic.
To what do we call a first love or relationship?
Do you remember your first relationship? It was a time when everything seems good and happy. Even Voldemort of harry potter feels smiling when you are in your first love. This is a feeling when you get romantically attracted to someone for the first time in your life. That person is more than enough to make you happy in any scenario. Even when you are hanging from a tree. 😂
It can happen at any age, but it is often associated with teenage years or young adulthood when people are just starting to explore their feelings and desires for romantic relationships. It is a significant experience for many people as it can shape their future relationships and set the tone for how they approach love and intimacy.
The main reasons why first love fails most of the time:
When we get into a relationship for the first time we do not know anything about it. What is good what is bad, What things we have to keep in mind, things to say and not to say and so on many things. These mistakes ultimately lead to a broken heart in the end. So, below are the main mistakes almost all of us do while in our first relationship.
1. Less understanding
The very first reason why we fail in our first relationship is our low understanding. We do not have any idea about a relationship and so we don’t know what things are a potential threat to our relationship. And because of that, we keep hitting those mistakes.
Generally, we all fall into our first relationship when we are in our teenage. So, at this age, we are more energetic and less understanding. We first for every little thing, we share every crap, and we discuss every scenario that leads to more fights. And in the end, get bored fighting with our partner.
In a relationship, it is very important to understand your partner’s point of view. But in our first relationship, we generally skip this part. We mostly think about ourselves which is also a big potential threat.
2. Lack of Experience and Maturity
It’s true that lack of experience and maturity can be a major factor in the success or failure of a relationship, especially when it comes to our first relationships. However, it’s important to remember that even with experience and maturity, relationships can still face challenges and potential threats.
Communication, trust, and mutual respect are key components to any healthy relationship, regardless of age or experience. It’s also important to recognize and address any patterns or behaviours that may be contributing to conflicts in the relationship.
with experience, we develop a gut feeling that what can lead to a serious fight in a relationship. And so we try to avoid those scenarios. But in our first relationship, this key component is missing. We trigger everything with innocence without thinking about the final result.
Of course, this seems very ethical to not think about consequences in a relationship and being raw. But this is not something that keeps a relationship alive. In a relationship, we have to think, that what is good and bad for our relationship and act according to that.
3. Unrealistic Expectations
Unrealistic expectations can also be a major issue in a relationship. It’s important to have open and honest communication about what each person wants and needs in the relationship, but it’s also important to be realistic about what can be achieved.
Setting unrealistic expectations can lead to disappointment and frustration, which can ultimately damage the relationship. It’s important to have a balance between setting goals and expectations that are challenging but achievable, and being flexible and understanding when things don’t go exactly as planned.
4. Communication Challenges
Communication challenges can arise in any relationship, and it’s important to address them in a constructive way. One common challenge is miscommunication, where one person misunderstands what the other person is saying or vice versa. It’s important to clarify any misunderstandings and try to see things from the other person’s perspective.
Another challenge is a communication breakdown, where one or both people stop communicating altogether. This can happen for a variety of reasons, such as feeling overwhelmed or stressed, or feeling like the other person isn’t listening. It’s important to recognize when communication has broken down and take steps to reconnect, such as scheduling a time to talk or seeking the help of a mediator.
Finally, cultural and language barriers can also pose communication challenges in relationships. It’s important to be patient and understanding when communicating with someone from a different culture or who speaks a different language, and to make an effort to learn about their cultural background and communication style.
5. Getting super possessive
In our first relationship generally, we get extremely attached to our partner. And this creates a fear inside us of losing the person by any chance. So, we try to avoid every situation that can potentially snatch our partner from us. And as a result, we become super possessive.
After this scenario, we start creating unrealistic boundaries in our relationship. Whenever we get jealous we start fighting with our love. Because in our first relationship, we never know how to deal with this jealousy. If the partner gets busy somewhere, we start creating many negative stories in our brain thinking he/she is ignoring us.
And this extra jealousy, insecurity and possessiveness make our relationship unbreathable. And ultimately lead to the end of it.
6. Different Ideologies
Some relationships break due to different ideologies. We agree on some points and not on others. And If on any topic both the partners are rigid on their points then this lead to a very serious fight.
One very normal topic is sex. Couples often fight on this topic especially when this is their first relationship. Of course, sex is a necessity in a relationship. But many partners do not agree with that. And this led to different ideologies. And if both partners are standing on their points not thinking other’s point of view. And this can lead to the instability of the relationship.
This is just an example of this point. There could be other topics that can lead to a serious debate. In that scenario, we just have to consider thinking about our partner’s point of view. And then take a proper correct decision.
7. External Factors
Sometimes it is not us, but the other external factors. It could be our parents, society, going out for higher studies, getting married, less time to invest together and so on many reasons. Of that, we can’t do anything. It is what destiny wants. And we need to accept that.
Of course, this will lead to a very bad heartbreak. But don’t worry, time heals everything.
Conclusion:
In conclusion, maintaining a healthy and long-lasting relationship requires effort, communication, understanding, and compromise from both partners. It is essential to prioritize the relationship, respect each other’s boundaries, and consider each other’s points of view.
However, sometimes external factors may come into play, and we may not have control over them. In such situations, it is crucial to accept and move on. Remember, time heals everything, and with the right mindset, we can always bounce back and find love again.
