Big or small, straight or curved, thick or thin, colorful or monochromatic, standard or ejaculating, there are so many dildo options that you can find anything you set your mind to. It doesn’t matter whether you’re new with dildos or sex in general or a dildo aficionado; a dildo fit for your needs and kinks is out there.
But with so many options out there, finding the right dildo size for your experience level can quickly become overwhelming. To help you find your new favorite toy without sweat, we will give you a few of our top tips on how you can find your perfect match.
The four key metrics
Finding the perfect dildo is not as simple as telling the seller, “I like 8-inch dildos,” and getting the ideal 8-inch dildo you envisioned. You need to know all the important dimensions to find something you will really enjoy and have fun with. They will ask what girth you want, too, as the girth is often as (or more) important than the length. With that in mind, you need to analyze four metrics when choosing a dildo: length, insertable length, width, and girth.
Length
The dildo length is the length of the toy from top to bottom, meaning the two farthest points. Many confuse this with the insertable length, which is the part that you can insert, but the two are entirely different. Also known as total length, it’s basically how much space the dildo takes, not how much is insertable.
Insertable Length
The insertable length of the dildo is how much of the toy is designed to be safely inserted. So, for instance, the total length of a dildo would include the dildo’s base and balls, while the insertable length would be only the shaft and tip. You should be paying the most attention to this for obvious reasons.
Width
The width, or the toy’s diameter, is the distance between the two sides of the toy. Similar to the total length, it’s not the width you can insert but rather the entire width of the toy.
Girth
The Dildo girth is the circumference of the dildo, which is tightly connected to the total width measurement. There is everything from tight pegging dildos used for beginner anal sex to huge monster dildos designed to stretch your private parts to their limit. They have bigger girths that will give you a feeling of fullness, so if you’re into the more extreme stuff, you will have a lot of fun with these dildos.
How to measure yourself for dildos
To find out what feels good for your body, you can test how different things feel. The simplest method of measuring girth is using something we all have – our fingers. You or your partner can slide fingers inside your hole until you reach the limit of what you can take. To measure the size, wrap a measuring tape around the fingers. This is the widest girth of the dildo you should get to have a comfortable dildo experience.
You can also use a sturdy household item with a smooth surface as an alternative dildo. Make sure to clean it and put a condom on it before penetrating yourself with it. See how much you can insert inside yourself, mark the part when it’s the furthest inside you, and measure it after you’re done. Lay down and get aroused to create a realistic scenario and once you’re well lubricated, start penetrating yourself.
Tips for success
Comparing dildo measurements
If you’re still unsure which dildo size is right for you after reading this article, we recommend choosing a dildo you are confident will find enjoyable. You can use previous partners or find dildo comparison charts online with everyday items as reference points for dildo sizes. If that doesn’t work either, you can always play it safe with something small and work your way up as you get more experienced with dildos.
Double-check the measurements
As the sex toy industry remains partially unregulated, many manufacturers aren’t held accountable for what they write on the package or on their website. So, when you’re browsing for adult toys online, it won’t hurt to double-check the measurements on other websites too. If the measurements match, they are likely correct, and you can expect to get what you read online.
Another thing you can do to confirm the measurements is to read online reviews. Previous buyers often put photos or videos of the product, so it will give you a general idea about the size and look of the dildo before buying it.
Check the firmness
Different materials have different flexibility, so it’s good to check how firm or soft a toy is based on your needs. If you want to use your dildo for anal sex, you need a firmer toy made of sturdy material like silicone, glass, or metal, while you can practice oral sex with any type of dildo.
Don’t be concerned about your vagina
For women, keep in mind that vaginas are incredibly flexible and can take things you never thought possible. It will always retract to its original shape, even after taking a massive dildo, so you could slowly work your way to it even if you opted for a king cock.
Final thoughts
There you have it. These are our top tips on choosing the right dildo size to fit your preferences and body. However, finding the right dildo may take some trial and error, so don’t feel discouraged if you don’t get your perfect match on the first try. Most importantly, don’t be ashamed of your personal dildo choice, regardless if it’s a small pegging dildo or a sissy toy. Everyone has different sexual tastes and preferences, so what feels good to another person may not work for you, and vice versa.
